Did you think there are no rules when selecting your husband? That you need to ensure he is a good person and you agree on basic principles? That if he gives you enough independence and enough love to bind the relationship, it is enough?
Well.. You are wrong!
Facebook just told me I did it all wrong! Simba doesn’t remain awake to look at me smiling in my dreams (so what if I don’t smile in dreams and just lie with my face half buried in my pillow with mouth so open that mosquitos can have a fly-through?!) He doesn’t know how I sip my coffee! I don’t think he ever told me he loves to hear my heartbeats! Though, once he did tell me my stomach grumbles like a drilling machine, but I don’t think that was a compliment! I had a bad stomach that night!
Ok, enough of banter! Quite frankly, I am very appalled by our expectations from spouses! Both husbands and wives! We need to know that romance is not the only thing in marriage and someone who doesn’t want to blink his eyes because he will miss a moment of looking at you is not romantic, it is clingy and obsessive! Remember k-k-k-k-k-kiran? For a change, Bollywood got that idea long back and he turned out to be a villian, didn’t he?
Why can’t we have expectations that are reasonable? Like someone who loves you, not everything about you, but still accepts you the way you are because that’s who you are! Is that bad? He may hate it when you wrinkle your nose but that’s ok because he is not supposed to fall in love with every quirk of yours, nor is he supposed to notice how you blink eyes or how you sneeze or how you poop! sheesh, that’s so obsessive!
A man who thinks every moment spent with you is priceless does not exist. Just as such a woman doesn’t exist. He may select a boys outing over you or his favorite match over you and it is okay. Just as you may select a coffee date with girls or your favorite match over him! (Yes, you can have your favorite match! World cup is coming up, I had to say this)
What I mean to say is “tu saamne baithi rahe, mein tujhe dekha karu” is not possible folks. Neither is it viable. Nor is it healthy. For a minute – may be. Forever seems to be a wee bit psychopathic. 😛 Think about it.